I would never think of writing anything on this useless subject but for the question

“How to overcome fear and do the pole dance trick” that people very often ask me.

People write this as if hoping that I’d directly give them the right formula or a name of a tablet.

I’ll try to be tactful and say: “Dear kids. You’re adults. Once you decided what you want, go for it. If you’re not sure, don’t do it. Fear does not kill. That’s all.”

If you don’t feel any easier, read further on (or don’t read at all, since it won’t ease things for you).

Firstly, (a short timeout is taken to explain things elementary) fear is a healthy and normal phenomenon.

The abnormal is when fear is missing.

When you, such a … (not being an acrobat) ponder: “Ahem, I wanna somersault, and I’ll do it.” Then you’d hardly live to read this post.

Secondly, you really shouldn’t fight your fear. Respect your feelings.

You’ve got them for reason, actually. But do not let the fear stop your life.

Getting back to somersault again. If you’ve never done it, fearing this is A HEALTHY FEAR! Find a good catcher, after all!

Preferred is somebody who can explain the technique.

And then do this element 100 times if you please, or 500 hundred till your body masters the trick and it becomes habitual to you and your catcher tells you that he actually doesn’t help you any more, you do the element yourself.

If this stage has come but you are still terrified by the thought of having to do it all by yourself, this is AN UNHEALTHY FEAR.

Here you should seriously discuss the matter with your head and explain to it that you really need this and going back on it is stupid.

After that you must spread the mats, close your eyes, make a special effort and … do it!

Feel yourself a winner, drink imagined wine from an imagined cup and do it again.

Twenty times.

*Author of the article Kristina Dumanskaya